i hate you.

Everyone’s looking for housemates. Some have problems in searching housemates, some don’t. So lets sit down, think about what we’ve done to others, before we throw the blame at them for not liking you or picking you as their housemate. And to those who have chosen their housemates, you have a big responsibility to carry on your back now. You’ll have to tolerate, be patient, and withstand all kinds of behavior from each of your housemates.

Everyone’s different. Love them for their difference.

So, without all of the above, this is what would happen when two hearts clash.

“I hate you. I think you should go to hell. ”, said person A in a shrieking voice.

“Oh yeah, well I hate you too, and I hope I don’t meet you in hell.” , said person B in a similar shrieking voice.

Often we’ve muttered these words, and often, with these words, we cause so much hurt and pain to someone else. Most of us have probably had this conversation at least once in our lives. Maybe twice, maybe thrice. Many of us fret over the weaknesses of others, often criticizing and mocking them, whilst they themselves have many ugly weaknesses to start with. Remember, for everytime we point a finger to someone, three fingers point back in our direction. ((try it out))

When someone comes to us, screaming and yelling, we blow up, possess all the symptoms of inflammation, ie ;hotness, redness, swelling, and then within minutes, BOOM, it goes from acute to chronic. Our brain cells undergo necrosis, causing us to forget how to think. We start to yell back, and there you have it, a friendship goes through the apoptosis process.



We take many things for granted in our life. We take air for granted. We take it for granted that the sun will rise again. Similarly we take it for granted that the friendship will never suffer. But that is false. If we don't water the plant of our friendship regularly, our friendship will suffer and we may create distance with our close friends.


Friendship is about sharing good times, bad times, smiles and tears. Friendship is made of sharing trust, honesty, and love for each other. Friendship, ukhuwwah, is about uniting hearts.

And for those who have fought with their friends, left them, or hated them with all their hearts,

Come on, grow up. Forgive and forget.



May Allah bless our hearts, and unite them together like two papers stuck with “gam gajah”. :)